The mind, like a parachute, only works when it is open.
Be the type of person you want to meet.
"There is no persuasiveness more effectual than the transparency of a single heart, of a sincere life."
Joseph Barber Lightfoot
Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.
Doors don't slam open.
Tell a lie once and all of your truths become questionable.
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RECOGNIZE YOUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS & ENERGY
- "Here is what I am doing and why I am doing it."
- "Let me explain how I made the decision."
- "I would like to understand your thinking and welcome your questions."
- "Here is what concerns me..."
- "I often struggle with..."
You feel relaxed and willing to talk about yourself, what makes you tick at work and personally. You invite candid questions about your thinking and decision making and you ask candid questions.
REALIZE WHAT IS DRIVING YOUR MINDSET
- You are feeling great courage and openness. You speak your mind so people can see what you're thinking, what you're feeling and what makes you tick.
- It's not having any corners or edges, or places where you're unwilling to reveal yourself. This does not mean that you reveal everything, sometimes it is not appropriate to do so, but your willingness keeps you open.
- You don't share every thought or feeling that you are having - you're not hiding anything that is relevant to the topic at hand.
- When something needs to be held in confidence you let people know, "I am not at liberty to share that information at this time."
- When making decisions you communicate how you're considering each of the inputs.
RESOLVE BALANCE YOUR STRENGTHS
- Speak from the heart.
- Welcome questions about your thought process and decision making.
- Explain your process without being defensive.
- Welcome conflict as an opportunity for everyone to learn.
- Always seek positive intention, especially when it is tough.
- Be willing to talk about anything and choose what you reveal.
- Put yourself in the other's shoes and ask yourself, "What are the questions they are thinking?"
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