"I'M NOT INSULTING YOU.
I'm describing you"
"Oh, I'm sorry.
Did my back hurt your knife?"
"Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic."
"If it If it looks like I care , please tell me. I don't want to give off the wrong impression."
"If idiots grew on trees,
This place would be an orchard"
"Does your train of thought have a caboose?"
"My silence does not mean that I agree with you. It's just that your level of ignorance rendered me speechless. "
"Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize you were an expert on my life and how I should live it. Please continue while I take notes."
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RECOGNIZE YOUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS & ENERGY
- "Really?"
- "There are no stupid questions, just stupid people."
- "I can explain it to you, I can't understand it for you."
- "Where did you learn how to dress like that?"
- "What's the matter, can't you take a joke?"
- "He's not the sharpest knife in the drawer."
You are disgusted and hold yourself and others in contempt. Your humor is based on tearing someone down.
REALIZE WHAT IS DRIVING YOUR MINDSET
- You are judging that person inferior and insisting on making fun of them in a derogatory way.
- You feel righteous and justified in your hostility because you think that you have "tried" to make things work in the past and they just didn't listen.
- You stopped caring about yourself and want to take it out on someone to make them look bad.
- You are afraid of just stating what you are angry about out of fear of being fired or ostracized.
- You're constantly lashing out pretending to be funny, but your humor is at someone's expense.
- You are in a very caustic loathing, fearful place.
- You don't realize that your cocky self-righteous sarcasm is inflicting deep pain in others and poisoning your own outlook on life.
RESOLVE TO MOVE FORWARD
- Step into the other person's shoes and feel the harshness of your sarcastic comments. Do you really want to inflict pain in others?
- See others as your equal and look for how you can say what is on your mind and be direct and kind at the same time.
- Admit that you avoid looking at yourself and owning your imperfections and having compassion for yourself.
- Appreciate that you are a work in progress and have talents and strengths and places where you are not being all that you can be.
- Learn how to use self-deprecating humor instead of sarcasm. Practice being humble - part of the greater good.
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