"Blowing out the other person's candle does not make yours burn brighter."
Anon
"You can't be envious and happy at the same time."
Frank Tyger
"Literally kick out of your life the bitter, sad, lonely, unhappy trolls, jerks and jackasses that seek to crash your party because theirs is not working."
Anon
"Someone else's victory is not your defeat."
Anon
"Envy is an insult to oneself."
Yevgeny Yevtushenko
"Whenever you see a successful person, you see only the public glories, never the private sacrifices it took to reach them."
V. Shaw
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RECOGNIZE YOUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS & ENERGY
- "He/she doesn't deserve to have that. I should be the one who has that."
- "What makes her/him think she/he is so special?"
- "What they have is crap anyway and I don't want it."
- "They/she/he are privileged, I hate them."
- "They don't even appreciate what they have."
Things seem unjust and you feel resentful, bitter and angry. Your feelings are convoluted and complicated.
REALIZE WHAT IS DRIVING YOUR MINDSET
- You are angry because you realize that you have cheated yourself from the opportunity to "have" something that you want. But rather than face how you have cheated yourself and said no to yourself, you make it someone else's fault and blame them for what they have.
- You are too busy comparing negatively what you have to what someone else has. You are projecting that someone else is unjustly violating your right to have something that you think you should have.
- You are telling yourself that you are unworthy or incapable in some way.
- Not only are you rendered unhappy by envy, but you wish to inflict negativity on others.
- It's much easier just to sit back and blame other people for their success rather than take full accountability and apply yourself 100 percent to get what it is that you want.
- Your payoff is that you don't have to get off your butt and do something with your life.
- There's nothing stopping you except your own self-doubt and self-pity.
RESOLVE TO MOVE FORWARD
- Whatever you see in others, you can have for yourself. It won't be handed to you. You need to create it for yourself.
- Build your self-concept. Start looking inward and identify, acknowledge and fortify your positive qualities.
- You are equal to other people. No better or worse.
- Stop being an angry pity-filled bystander. Stop being so self-righteous about how wrong other people are.
- Get off your butt and focus on what you want to create for your life.
- Focus on your own inner positive qualities and creativities.
- Turn your attentions to your own personal goals and forget about what someone else has.
- Let go of comparing yourself to others in a negative light. Someone will always have more than you and someone would be grateful to have what you have.
- Learn how to be satisfied with what you have or motivated to work for more.
- Get inspired about your life and the journey you are on.
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