Critical
[krit-i-kuhl]
  1. inclined, occupied to find fault or to judge with severity, often too readily
  2. verbal or non-verbal personal attack likely to make the individual feel rejected, not accepted or liked, unfairly treated, degraded, dishonored or humiliated
  3. can be toward self, others or situation



"TO AVOID CRITICISM,
DO NOTHING,
SAY NOTHING
BE NOTHING."



"Don't be distracted by criticism. Remember: The only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you."
Zig Ziglar


"There is a luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves we feel no one else has a right to blame us."
Oscar Wilde


"Be so good they can't ignore you."
Steve Martin 		RECOGNIZE YOUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS & ENERGY
  1. "Everything about this is wrong."
  2. "I'm irritated about how much is wrong here."
  3. "You don't know how not to make mistakes."
  4. "No matter what I do, nothing I do is right."
  5. "There is something wrong with me."
You are irritated about mistakes that are being made and on the attack.

REALIZE WHAT IS DRIVING YOUR MINDSET

  1. You sit in a self-righteous, negative place where you tear things apart, item by item.
  2. Even if you are right there is no way for someone to accept your point of view without feeling put down.
  3. You're angry about how imperfect you think you are. This erodes your self-confidence and any appreciation you might have for yourself - it's a poison. You treat others the same way.
  4. You always set unachievable standards to maintain a negative attitude about not achieving them.
  5. You "YES BUT" everything and minimize and/or invalidate the positive.
  6. A critical mindset here is not critical thinking. Critical thinking is in the domain of rigor. A critical mindset is mental anger that is not productive.



RESOLVE TO BALANCE YOUR STRENGTHS

  1. Realize that everything can be improved, so tearing it apart will not make it better.
  2. See where improvements can be made and see it as simply a characteristic, not a negative flaw that deserves condemnation.
  3. Ask yourself where your vision of perfection comes from. Where did you learn to be critical? How do you know that something is not perfect - compared to what? How many things in this world are perfect?
  4. Remind yourself daily that you are a work in progress; enjoy the journey.
  5. Set realistic expectations for yourself. Once you accomplish your goal, thank yourself.
  6. Find 3 things a day to appreciate about yourself.


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